Assalamualaikum, yahhh lamakkkkk dah akak nisik bersusei ngan kitak urang oooo. 😘
Udah 17 ari raya bok kuar post nak oooo. So, kamek nak mintak maap lah zahir batin, semua kitak urang, adik kakak, rakan taulan, mun adalah terkasar bahasa, teranok kah, sama2 lah kita ooo. 0_0 ta urang tua✌🏼️.
On a diff note, Alhamdulillah raya dah selmat berlalu, wallet pun udah kerin tapi sukor malaysia masih aman. Erk 😁. Nisik selamanya ko mok feeling2Eva Mendes, ada masa ko harus feeling2 Emma Watson. 😘 haih.
Have you ever gone out with someone who controls your every move? 💃👎🏻 How you speak? 👀👎🏻 How you laugh? 😂👎🏻 How you order your food? 🍕👎🏻 Or how you dress? 👗👠👎🏻
Ever since I started dating, I’ve never really gone into a relationship with those who controls my well being. In fact, they’re usually supportive with what I want to do, what I do and even what I wear. I remember an ex of mine who was rushing me for our movie date and I asked if I should wear my new pair of ballet flats or flip flops since it was just a midnight movie.
“What are you comfortable with?” He asked, annoyed that we were wasting his stand-in-line-for-popcorn time. 😂😁
“Flip flops” I answered.
“Then wear flip flops”
On our way, he turned to look at me and said; “I want you to wear whatever you want to wear, as long as you’re comfortable. You look beautiful in anything”.😍👍🏼
Hmmm…now I honestly cant remember why we broke up. 😥😭 A real sweetheart there.
Just recently a friend of mine broke of her engagement because…it didnt work out. After awhile, she told me all the sordid details about losing all control in the relationship. She lost herself halfway. She didnt know who she was anymore cause she forgot how to make her own decisions. I didnt realize it then but after she told me about it, I tried to remember the time we hung out with her ex fiance. Its true though.😩
She stopped being funny and became one of those demure lady like I usually like to provoke to see the tiger in her. Her attire completely changed and she had to wear a pair of heels when we went to mamak stalls. She could no longer laugh out loud at the funniest things. When she speaks, she had whisper and I would scrunch my face and go “Haaaaah?! Speak up la” Nakpa kebenda di kaka kitak ya! Asa kaka ngan semut koh 🐜💨in a very non lady like way.😪
I thought her changes was because….she grew up. Apparently not.
As soon as the couple called off their engagement, she went back to her usual self, where she could laugh at anything, wear whatever she wants to wear, eat whatever she wants to eat and speak how she usually speaks.😍👌🏼
I dont really understand the need to change or control someone. I mean, you fell for her because she’s the way she is right?! If she’s not up to your expectation, then look elsewhere. Changes for the good is fine, like getting someone to stop taking drugs or getting drunk ever night. When you change someone, its mentally and emotionally killing them because what you’re implying is; “You’re not good enough”.
Maybe all these while, whenever someone tries to change me, I would turn the other cheek and find someone who wants me the way I am. A guy who shows me around to his friends even when Im wearing the most hideous clothes I cant find in the closet. A guy who makes me feel beautiful even when I feel the shittiest that day.
Its not something new to me because I’ve always had friends who controls themselves whenever they’re with their partner. Change their whole being just to accomodate their partners.
I grew up with a mom who goes; “If he cant accept you, fuck them!” Not that my mom said “fuck” but the meaning is the same. 😂😂😂
And a dad; “If he tells you to change, you tell him to he needs a change too. Change his personality. Asshole! Not that my dad said asshole but you know already kan. Maksudnya lebih kurang la.. 😂😂😂 and why do i need to explain this?! 😪
A sister; “Poor thing, he doesnt deserve you”
A reall ballbuster family I tell ya. And Im glad that so far, I have managed to walk away from those who cant take me as I am. 🏃🏻🏃🏻🏃🏻
Throwback Raya 🎁🎀🎉😍😘